The Skills of Love

January 19, 2024

Draft v1.1

Learning to Love

The Skills of Love, Connection, Synergy

[Full List]
  1. Mindfulness, Serenity, Equanimity
    • Calmness: to be calm
    • Peacefulness: to be peaceful
    • Tranquility: to be tranquil
    • Harmony: to be harmonious
    • Serenity: to be serene
    • Regulation: to regulate
    • Reframing: to reframe
    • Equanimity: to be equanimous
    • Mindfulness: to be mindful
  2. Presence, Awareness, Attention
    • Presence: to be present
    • Awareness: to be aware
    • Attention: to be be attentive and give attention
    • Concentration: to concentrate
    • Engagement: to engage
  3. Openness, Understanding, Acceptance
    • Listening: to listen
    • Empathy: to be empathetic and empathize
    • Receptiveness: to be receptive and receive
    • Curiosity: to be curious
    • Open-mindedness: to be open-minded
    • Recognition: to recognize
    • Understanding: to be understanding and understand
    • Learning: to learn (and gain insight)
    • Openness: to be open
    • Acceptance: to be accepting and accept
  4. Gratitude, Appreciation, Admiration
    • Gratitude: to be grateful and give gratitude
    • Recognition: to recognize and give recognition
    • Appreciation: to appreciate and give appreciation
    • Thankfulness: to thank and give thanks
    • Praise: to praise and give praise
    • Affirmation: to affirm and give affirmation
    • Encouragement: to encourage and give encouragement
    • Admiration: to admire and give admiration
    • Fondness: to be fond
    • Respect: to be respectful and give respect
  5. Care, Kindness, Compassion
    • Care: to be caring and give care
    • Kindness: to be kind and give kindness
    • Compassion: to be compassionate and give compassion
    • Benevolence: to be benevolent and give benevolence
    • Fairness: to be fair
  6. Altruism, Generosity, Support
    • Altruism: to be altruistic
    • Consideration: to be considerate and give consideration
    • Support: to be supportive and give support
    • Service: to serve
    • Empowerment: to empower
    • Help: to be helpful and give help
    • Aid: to aid and give aid
    • Generosity: to be generous
    • Giving: to be giving and give
    • Sharing: to be sharing and share
  7. Communication, Vulnerability, Authenticity
    • Communication: to be communicative and communicate
    • Responsiveness: to be responsive and respond
    • Expression: to be expressive and express
    • Vulnerability: to be vulnerable
    • Openness: to be open
    • Authenticity: to be authentic
    • Honesty: to be honest
  8. Joy, Positivity, Playfulness
    • Joyfulness: to be joyful and share joy
    • Positivity: to be positive and share positivity
    • Fun: to have fun
    • Playfulness: to be playful and play
    • Laughter: to laugh and share laughter
  9. Reconciliation, Apology, Forgiveness
    • Reconciliation: to reconcile
    • Apology: to apologize
    • Forgiveness: to forgive
  10. Trust, Reliability, Commitment
    • Trust: to trust
    • Reliability: to be reliable
    • Commitment: to commit



Mindfulness, Serenity, Equanimity
  • Calmness: to be calm

  • Peacefulness: to be peaceful

  • Tranquility: to be tranquil

  • Harmony: to be harmonious

  • Serenity: to be serene

  • Regulation: to regulate

  • Reframing: to reframe

  • Equanimity: to be equanimous

  • Mindfulness: to be mindful

Presence, Awareness, Attention
  • Presence: to be present

  • Awareness: to be aware

  • Attention: to be be attentive and give attention

  • Concentration: to concentrate

  • Engagement: to engage

Openness, Understanding, Acceptance
  • Listening: to listen

  • Empathy: to be empathetic and empathize

  • Receptiveness: to be receptive and receive

  • Curiosity: to be curious

  • Open-mindedness: to be open-minded

  • Recognition: to recognize

  • Understanding: to be understanding and understand

  • Learning: to learn (and gain insight)

  • Openness: to be open

  • Acceptance: to be accepting and accept

Gratitude, Appreciation, Admiration
  • Gratitude: to be grateful and give gratitude

  • Recognition: to recognize and give recognition

  • Appreciation: to appreciate and give appreciation

  • Thankfulness: to thank and give thanks

  • Praise: to praise and give praise

  • Affirmation: to affirm and give affirmation

  • Encouragement: to encourage and give encouragement

  • Admiration: to admire and give admiration

  • Fondness: to be fond

  • Respect: to be respectful and give respect

Care, Kindness, Compassion
  • Care: to be caring and give care

  • Kindness: to be kind and give kindness

  • Compassion: to be compassionate and give compassion

  • Benevolence: to be benevolent and give benevolence

  • Fairness: to be fair

Altruism, Generosity, Support
  • Altruism: to be altruistic

  • Consideration: to be considerate and give consideration

  • Support: to be supportive and give support

  • Service: to serve

  • Empowerment: to empower

  • Help: to be helpful and give help

  • Aid: to aid and give aid

  • Generosity: to be generous

  • Giving: to be giving and give

  • Sharing: to be sharing and share

Communication, Vulnerability, Authenticity
  • Communication: to be communicative and communicate

  • Responsiveness: to be responsive and respond

  • Expression: to be expressive and express

  • Vulnerability: to be vulnerable

  • Openness: to be open

  • Authenticity: to be authentic

  • Honesty: to be honest

Joy, Positivity, Playfulness
  • Joyfulness: to be joyful and share joy

  • Positivity: to be positive and share positivity

  • Fun: to have fun

  • Playfulness: to be playful and play

  • Laughter: to laugh and share laughter

Reconciliation, Apology, Forgiveness
  • Reconciliation: to reconcile

  • Apology: to apologize

  • Forgiveness: to forgive

Trust, Loyalty, Commitment
  • Trust: to trust

  • Loyalty: to be loyal

  • Commitment: to commit




Love for Others

With others, we consistently strive to:

  1. Be Mindful, Calm, Equanimous
  2. Be Present, Aware, Attentive
  3. Be Curious, Understanding, Accepting
  4. Give Gratitude, Appreciation, Admiration
  5. Give Care, Kindness, Compassion
  6. Be Altruistic, Generous, Supportive
  7. Be Communicative, Vulnerable, Open

Often, we strive to:

  1. Be Joyful, Positive, Playful

Sometimes, we must:

  1. Reconcile, Apologize, Forgive

With some people, we should:

  1. Give Trust, Reliability, Commitment

Self-Love

With ourselves, we consistently strive to be:

  1. Mindful, Calm, Equanimous
  2. Present, Aware, Attentive
  3. Curious, Understanding, Accepting
  4. Grateful, Appreciative, Affirming
  5. Caring, Kind, Compassionate

And often, we strive to be:

  1. Joyful, Positive, Playful

Altogether

The skills of both self-love and love for others:

  1. Mindfulness, Serenity, Equanimity
  2. Presence, Awareness, Attention
  3. Openness, Understanding, Acceptance
  4. Gratitude, Appreciation, Admiration
  5. Care, Kindness, Compassion
  6. Joy, Positivity, Playfulness

The skills more specific to loving others:

  1. Altruism, Support, Generosity
  2. Communication, Vulnerability, Authenticity
  3. Reconciliation, Apology, Forgiveness
  4. Trust, Reliability, Commitment



Draft v0.1 (prev version)

Love is the synthesis of:

  • Presence, awareness, attention, concentration, engagement
  • Connection, synergy, openness, curiosity, understanding, acceptance, trust
  • Gratitude, appreciation, admiration, recognition, respect, thankfulness
  • Compassion, care, kindness, benevolence, altruism, empathy
  • Equanimity, tranquility, calmness, peace, harmony, serenity
To have:To be:
PresencePresent
AwarenessAware
AttentionAttentive
ConcentrationConcentrated
EngagementEngaged
UnderstandingUnderstanding
ConnectionConnected
OpennessOpen
CuriosityCurious
AcceptanceAccepting
TrustTrusting
ResponsivenessResponsive
GratitudeGrateful
AppreciationAppreciative
AdmirationAdmiring
PraisePraising
RecognitionRecognizing
RespectRespectful
ThankfulnessThankful
ComplimentsComplimenting
FondnessFond
VulnerabilityVulnerable
CommunicationCommunicative
ExpressionExpressive/ing
ReceptivenessReceptive
IntentionIntentional
CompassionCompassionate
CareCaring
KindnessKind
BenevolenceBenevolent
AltruismAltruistic
EmpathyEmpathetic
PositivityPositive
CalmnessCalm
PeacePeaceful
TranquilityTranquil
SerenitySerene
EquanimityEquanimous
HarmonyHarmonious
FunFun
PlayfulnessPlayful

You can nurture yourself and your relationships by prioritizing and practicing these skills.