The Skills of Love
January 19, 2024
Draft v1.1
Learning to Love
The Skills of Love, Connection, Synergy
[Full List]
- Mindfulness, Serenity, Equanimity
- Calmness: to be calm
- Peacefulness: to be peaceful
- Tranquility: to be tranquil
- Harmony: to be harmonious
- Serenity: to be serene
- Regulation: to regulate
- Reframing: to reframe
- Equanimity: to be equanimous
- Mindfulness: to be mindful
- Presence, Awareness, Attention
- Presence: to be present
- Awareness: to be aware
- Attention: to be be attentive and give attention
- Concentration: to concentrate
- Engagement: to engage
- Openness, Understanding, Acceptance
- Listening: to listen
- Empathy: to be empathetic and empathize
- Receptiveness: to be receptive and receive
- Curiosity: to be curious
- Open-mindedness: to be open-minded
- Recognition: to recognize
- Understanding: to be understanding and understand
- Learning: to learn (and gain insight)
- Openness: to be open
- Acceptance: to be accepting and accept
- Gratitude, Appreciation, Admiration
- Gratitude: to be grateful and give gratitude
- Recognition: to recognize and give recognition
- Appreciation: to appreciate and give appreciation
- Thankfulness: to thank and give thanks
- Praise: to praise and give praise
- Affirmation: to affirm and give affirmation
- Encouragement: to encourage and give encouragement
- Admiration: to admire and give admiration
- Fondness: to be fond
- Respect: to be respectful and give respect
- Care, Kindness, Compassion
- Care: to be caring and give care
- Kindness: to be kind and give kindness
- Compassion: to be compassionate and give compassion
- Benevolence: to be benevolent and give benevolence
- Fairness: to be fair
- Altruism, Generosity, Support
- Altruism: to be altruistic
- Consideration: to be considerate and give consideration
- Support: to be supportive and give support
- Service: to serve
- Empowerment: to empower
- Help: to be helpful and give help
- Aid: to aid and give aid
- Generosity: to be generous
- Giving: to be giving and give
- Sharing: to be sharing and share
- Communication, Vulnerability, Authenticity
- Communication: to be communicative and communicate
- Responsiveness: to be responsive and respond
- Expression: to be expressive and express
- Vulnerability: to be vulnerable
- Openness: to be open
- Authenticity: to be authentic
- Honesty: to be honest
- Joy, Positivity, Playfulness
- Joyfulness: to be joyful and share joy
- Positivity: to be positive and share positivity
- Fun: to have fun
- Playfulness: to be playful and play
- Laughter: to laugh and share laughter
- Reconciliation, Apology, Forgiveness
- Reconciliation: to reconcile
- Apology: to apologize
- Forgiveness: to forgive
- Trust, Reliability, Commitment
- Trust: to trust
- Reliability: to be reliable
- Commitment: to commit
Mindfulness, Serenity, Equanimity
Calmness: to be calm
Peacefulness: to be peaceful
Tranquility: to be tranquil
Harmony: to be harmonious
Serenity: to be serene
Regulation: to regulate
Reframing: to reframe
Equanimity: to be equanimous
Mindfulness: to be mindful
Presence, Awareness, Attention
Presence: to be present
Awareness: to be aware
Attention: to be be attentive and give attention
Concentration: to concentrate
Engagement: to engage
Openness, Understanding, Acceptance
Listening: to listen
Empathy: to be empathetic and empathize
Receptiveness: to be receptive and receive
Curiosity: to be curious
Open-mindedness: to be open-minded
Recognition: to recognize
Understanding: to be understanding and understand
Learning: to learn (and gain insight)
Openness: to be open
Acceptance: to be accepting and accept
Gratitude, Appreciation, Admiration
Gratitude: to be grateful and give gratitude
Recognition: to recognize and give recognition
Appreciation: to appreciate and give appreciation
Thankfulness: to thank and give thanks
Praise: to praise and give praise
Affirmation: to affirm and give affirmation
Encouragement: to encourage and give encouragement
Admiration: to admire and give admiration
Fondness: to be fond
Respect: to be respectful and give respect
Care, Kindness, Compassion
Care: to be caring and give care
Kindness: to be kind and give kindness
Compassion: to be compassionate and give compassion
Benevolence: to be benevolent and give benevolence
Fairness: to be fair
Altruism, Generosity, Support
Altruism: to be altruistic
Consideration: to be considerate and give consideration
Support: to be supportive and give support
Service: to serve
Empowerment: to empower
Help: to be helpful and give help
Aid: to aid and give aid
Generosity: to be generous
Giving: to be giving and give
Sharing: to be sharing and share
Communication, Vulnerability, Authenticity
Communication: to be communicative and communicate
Responsiveness: to be responsive and respond
Expression: to be expressive and express
Vulnerability: to be vulnerable
Openness: to be open
Authenticity: to be authentic
Honesty: to be honest
Joy, Positivity, Playfulness
Joyfulness: to be joyful and share joy
Positivity: to be positive and share positivity
Fun: to have fun
Playfulness: to be playful and play
Laughter: to laugh and share laughter
Reconciliation, Apology, Forgiveness
Reconciliation: to reconcile
Apology: to apologize
Forgiveness: to forgive
Trust, Loyalty, Commitment
Trust: to trust
Loyalty: to be loyal
Commitment: to commit
Love for Others
With others, we consistently strive to:
- Be Mindful, Calm, Equanimous
- Be Present, Aware, Attentive
- Be Curious, Understanding, Accepting
- Give Gratitude, Appreciation, Admiration
- Give Care, Kindness, Compassion
- Be Altruistic, Generous, Supportive
- Be Communicative, Vulnerable, Open
Often, we strive to:
- Be Joyful, Positive, Playful
Sometimes, we must:
- Reconcile, Apologize, Forgive
With some people, we should:
- Give Trust, Reliability, Commitment
Self-Love
With ourselves, we consistently strive to be:
- Mindful, Calm, Equanimous
- Present, Aware, Attentive
- Curious, Understanding, Accepting
- Grateful, Appreciative, Affirming
- Caring, Kind, Compassionate
And often, we strive to be:
- Joyful, Positive, Playful
Altogether
The skills of both self-love and love for others:
- Mindfulness, Serenity, Equanimity
- Presence, Awareness, Attention
- Openness, Understanding, Acceptance
- Gratitude, Appreciation, Admiration
- Care, Kindness, Compassion
- Joy, Positivity, Playfulness
The skills more specific to loving others:
- Altruism, Support, Generosity
- Communication, Vulnerability, Authenticity
- Reconciliation, Apology, Forgiveness
- Trust, Reliability, Commitment
Draft v0.1 (prev version)
Love is the synthesis of:
- Presence, awareness, attention, concentration, engagement
- Connection, synergy, openness, curiosity, understanding, acceptance, trust
- Gratitude, appreciation, admiration, recognition, respect, thankfulness
- Compassion, care, kindness, benevolence, altruism, empathy
- Equanimity, tranquility, calmness, peace, harmony, serenity
To have: | To be: |
---|---|
Presence | Present |
Awareness | Aware |
Attention | Attentive |
Concentration | Concentrated |
Engagement | Engaged |
Understanding | Understanding |
Connection | Connected |
Openness | Open |
Curiosity | Curious |
Acceptance | Accepting |
Trust | Trusting |
Responsiveness | Responsive |
Gratitude | Grateful |
Appreciation | Appreciative |
Admiration | Admiring |
Praise | Praising |
Recognition | Recognizing |
Respect | Respectful |
Thankfulness | Thankful |
Compliments | Complimenting |
Fondness | Fond |
Vulnerability | Vulnerable |
Communication | Communicative |
Expression | Expressive/ing |
Receptiveness | Receptive |
Intention | Intentional |
Compassion | Compassionate |
Care | Caring |
Kindness | Kind |
Benevolence | Benevolent |
Altruism | Altruistic |
Empathy | Empathetic |
Positivity | Positive |
Calmness | Calm |
Peace | Peaceful |
Tranquility | Tranquil |
Serenity | Serene |
Equanimity | Equanimous |
Harmony | Harmonious |
Fun | Fun |
Playfulness | Playful |
You can nurture yourself and your relationships by prioritizing and practicing these skills.